I've just read a
review of the movie,
Fly Away, by Janet Grillo (executive producer of
Autism: The
Musical fame). I haven't seen the movie, which addresses the difficulties a single mother and her intensely autistic adolescent daughter experience, but the review lit up a few synapses in my otherwise moving-overwhelmed brain. Having spent the last few days taking my child with Asperger's to restaurants, hotels, parks, and other public and unfamiliar places and dealt with the sequelae, a few phrases in this review struck a chord with me...and not a harmonious one.
Anyone who's been reading this blog knows that my son, TH, has been diagnosed with Asperger's. The way his autism has manifested has changed over the years, starting with a classic presentation of meltdowns, absent pragmatic language, obsessions over "abnormal" objects and subjects, flapping, lining up toys, and so on. I've
chronicled his experiences here for several years, covering his days from public school kindergarten to being a fifth-grade homeschooler.
TH can talk. Sometimes, he makes a lot of sense and has insights that surprise us. Sometimes, he makes no sense at all. It varies from day to day. It varies from hour to hour. But he's verbal, and what I quote from him here comes minus his interjections and non-sequiturs, his loud, unmodulated voice, his grimaces, his flapping, his Eeeeeees. Those features I just described become more prominent in situations of excitement, novelty, anxiety, and fear, and lately, he's seemed to have more and more difficulty controlling them when we ask, as we do in restaurants and other public places. One reason we think this up-tick is happening is the onset of adolescence.
My son is a smart, autistic person. He does not appear to have a broad-spectrum intellectual disability, although he has some clear learning disabilities that we accommodate in many ways in our homeschooling. He's insightful enough about his autism to be able
to articulate--with some quote-smoothing from his mother--exactly how he views autism and his expression of it.
But he's not intellectually brilliant. He has no savant skills. He's got some preternatural naturalist abilities, but that's related to his fine visual perception and discrimination and his early fixations--
imprinting?--on the natural world.
The bottom line is, our son is an autistic person who is not intellectually disabled. He's learning disabled. Socially disabled. Communicatively disabled. But as far as cognitive abilities go, he's fine. Does that make him somehow not autistic enough? Why do I always see this question rising like a challenge from comments like the one below?
The movie review I mentioned above quotes Grillo as saying, "There are now 800,000 Americans with autism...most people on the spectrum of autism are NOT intellectually gifted Asperger-types. They will never function independently, requiring 24/7 care for the rest of their lives." (I corrected a few things in the quote).
Later, Grillo is quoted as saying, "In Fly Away, I chose to dramatize severe autism, unflinchingly and without sentimentality."
Reading these two quotes and seeing autism described in the review as an "illness," I had a reaction. My first reaction was to ask, Is it true that most people on the autism spectrum will require 24/7 care as adults? That's a serious question, and if anyone has data on that, I'd appreciate the information.
After the data-seeker in me was finished critiquing, my personal queries surfaced. In that quote, Grillo seemed to be linking "Aspergers-types" (what is that?) with intellectual giftedness. That's a stereotype that doesn't even fit the current DSM-IV description of Asperger's, and from what I've read, most people with Asperger's are of average intelligence. Not to hammer on Grillo personally, as she's by no means alone in bringing it up, I'm sick of that "gifted" stereotype; its effect is to both dismiss people with Asperger's as simply suffering from an overabundance of awkward brilliance and to dismiss them as not having "real" autism. The upcoming DSM-V would
beg to disagree, rolling all spectrum diagnoses into one, under a single autism umbrella.
That decision makes sense to me. Autism is not a measure of intellectual ability. It's a communication disorder that can occur with or without intellectual disability and with or without intellectual giftedness. Not every autistic person is a savant, not every Aspie is brilliant, not every intensely autistic person will require 24/7 care for the rest of their lives. The one thing that they do have in common is that they all have a communication disorder called autism. Some may call it a difference. Some may called it a disorder. But I can't see it as a disease or an illness, both of which describe poor or bad health. My son is one of the healthiest people I know. Am I quibbling? I don't know. Is Down Syndrome considered an illness or a disease? What about Williams Syndrome, or Fragile X?
At any rate, my healthy autistic son is now becoming more aware of many things, one of which is this blog and the things that I write about him. He's a great child, but I can already see some things coming up, things that I'd love to blog about for insight from the autism community, things related to the confusion of puberty interacting with some of his autism-related differences. We're working very hard around here, but I can't provide many specifics, and as his issues emerge or if they continue to emerge, any crowdsourcing of insight or support will occur more and more behind the social scenes. Let's just say we've had a few instances, and I can clearly see the autism confusing what will already be a confusing time.
When it comes to adolescence, no one can say what will happen, whether there's autism or not. I know parents whose neurotypical adolescent children have proved to be raging, hormonal nightmares. I know parents of autistic teens whose experience with their adolescents was relatively harmonious, but I also know autism parents who, with their autistic teens, had an unpredictable, horrorshow existence, parents who have made the wrenching decision depicted in the film of having to place their child in a residential facility. Read to the end, and you'll see why I think a movie like this may help exactly such parents...and how Grillo and I agree precisely on this point.
But one more graf o'complaining. Watch Grillo's previous outing as an executive producer on Autism: The Musical, and you'll see even among that small group of autistic children a variety of personalities and behaviors. Not all autistic children or adolescents or adults rage. Not all people with intense autism are intellectually disabled. While I appreciate Grillo's film as I've seen it described and her goal of showing unflinching reality, I'm concerned that her comments about the film, as given in this review, will close minds that may have been opening to some of the unexplored possibilities of what's happening in the minds of autistic people.
My reaction to Grillo's comment was chaotic. I have now hurled up this long, possibly equally chaotic blog post as catharsis. It doesn't help my attitude or my perspective that Grillo blames
vaccines for her son's autism. The thing is, though, she's a woman with a plan. Yes, that plan is to donate some proceeds to Autism Speaks, which she joined as a board member back when it was Cure Autism Now. But her reasons for having made
Fly Away go beyond what the review quoted. She's sketched them out
here. While I have a minor concern that such films will reinforce autism stereotypes, I hope right along with Grillo that for autism parents who have these toughest of choices to make,
Fly Away will show them they're not alone. For them, that stereotype is reality.
In journalism, you're not supposed to cherry-pick quotes to drive truth in one direction or another, but here's a quote from Grillo, commenting on her film, that I choose for my lowly blog:
I’ve also watched parents unable to place their children in full-time therapeutic residences, when it was clearly needed. While such placement is not best for all or even most children on the spectrum, it’s tragic when parents are too plagued with fear and guilt to make the choice when it is. If Fly Away eases the pain of even one parent’s torturous decision, or if it expands the heart of even one person untouched by Autism to accept our children and appreciate our struggles, it will have been well worth making.
As with so many things in the autism community, while I've expended hundreds of words here rambling on about where I disagree with someone else, these few words on which we agree are the ones that matter.